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The keys to raising good children
Children are gift from God to their parent and gift from their parents to the world. Isaiah 8:18 states “I and the children the Lord has given to me have names that reveal plans the Lord Almighty has for His people.
There are two things parents must do:
- Training- Take active responsibility for the child.
- Discipline- Applying the rod of correction to deviating child so that he can conform to the norms. A youngster’s heart is full with foolishness, but discipline will drive it away (Proverbs 22:15).
Discover what interests your child as he grows, and start nurturing him in that area. Train your child way according to his ability. His area of interest is the area in which he has ability to perform well. Every human being has an area of specialization right from childhood, and it takes parents who discover and train their child in that area of specialization to have a great child.
How to discover the interests of your child
When your child knows nothing yet, buy him books, toy cars, televisions, fan, radio, bicycle, etc as many as you can. Watch him closely, you will find out that there is one toy he plays a lot with and you will also find out that sometimes he can spoil the toy and repair it again. Sometimes, if you hide his favorite toy from him you will see that his mood will change to bad until you give it back to him. Then he will become happy again.
Some children, even when you don’t buy them play toys, learn how to operate every electrical appliance in the house. Some will try to make clothes for their teddy, some will write on the wall and start saying every thing their teacher said in the class room as though they are teaching and holding a cane in their hand, and so on and so forth.
There is a child two years of age in my street. This child asks a lot of questions and talk too much. Once his daddy came home and saw him watching a movie alone. Surprised, he asked the child, “Where is your aunty?”
The child answered, “She is in the kitchen.”
He asked the child, “Who put on these things?”
The child said, “The remote control got spoilt and I repaired it, so I’m testing it.
Another day his mother wanted to use the remote control of the television, only to see its constituent pieces scattered in the sitting room. She called the child and asked him who had spoiled the remote control. He said “ I did, but I can fix it back.” His mother ordered him to fix it immediately. Before she could say “Jack Robin”, the boy was already controlling the television with the remote control.
Do not insist on training your child in the specialization of your choice; he may not do well in that area because his interest and ability is not in that direction. Don’t insist that your child will take the same line of profession as you if his interest and ability are not in that direction; he may fail you if you do because his way is not your way.
I know a young man who, in childhood, saw every round object as a basket ball. He grew up developing an interest in that direction and won some trophies during his primary and secondary school days but his father insisted that he must study medicine just like he had before him. The young man struggled with that curse and unfortunately, he could not graduate in Nigeria. His father sent him to Spain to study medicine, but in Spain he left the study of medicine and joined a basketball team. Before long he was sending cars to his parents. Allow your child to choose the profession of his interest because that is the only place he can do better than others and even strive for the best.
Establish rules for your child and your home. Most parents don’t have does and don’ts for their child. That is why one can notice a child’s bad behavior and wonder if the child comes from a home. The truth is that the child was not properly brought up. Have rules such as: no one stays outside the home after 5pm, no reading pornographic books or watching pornographic movies, no fighting, etc. When you make these rules, ensure that your child understands them. Explain to the child the reason why he should not do those things. And if he will be able to do some of them when he’s older, tell him at what age.
Don’t spare the rod when dealing with your child (Proverbs 12:1). In order to teach, you must employ discipline; it is stupid to hate correction. When you spare the rod, you spoil the child. Note this: both parents have equal rights to discipline the child. It is neither solely daddy’s nor mummy’s duty. When a child deviates, if you’re his mother, don’t tell him, “Wait until your daddy comes back.” This will make him discover your weakness as a woman and increase his respect for his daddy. And whenever one of the parents is disciplining the child, the other should be supportive. Neither parent should be on the side of the child.
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PRINCE C.J. BENJAMIN
Prince C.J. Benjamin is a 25 year old man from Abia state in Nigeria. He is into eradicating poverty and extreme hunger and combating cybercrime. He is the founder of the COALITION FOR ERADICATION OF POVERTY, an NGO.
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adham tobail Adham Tobail | Jul 3rd, 2008
If we want to build a society for life and unable to survive freely Ijbaali parents to give their keen interest in education and socialization, and the parents know their children's attention because it helps to enhance skills in positive child, or the parents guide their children to help them learn many things in the future , From the outset must focus their parents what they are doing if for example, I like painting or loved playing in the car, this confirms that the child has the attention of this explanation that the father of a girl How can paints or old car, and therefore the result we invested our children in the right direction
See, for example,
Children are unable painting at the age ten years reason is that the father was concerned with this talent among children and developed
Father must encourage children to respect others and give an opportunity to change any rules of life education
Thanks to the writer
Adham
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