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Simple rules you learned as a child such as waste not, want not, you must eat everything on your plate or it is wrong to snitch on a friend, help to form your core beliefs. Maybe you are still hurting emotionally over some incident from your childhood. Maybe you ran from a bully when you were thirteen and now you believe you are a coward. Maybe your grandmother told you that you would go to hell if you told a lie, usually after you told a lie.
Maybe some kid called you fatso. These things, and more, could have a negative influence on your core beliefs. Comments that are very casual in nature can have devastating effects on your core beliefs.
Alli K., not his real name, is a man I worked with many years ago. Alli loved fast, classy cars and this love turned into a desire to own a business that bought, sold and repaired exotic automobiles. Alli did not spend his time just dreaming, he took action. He attended evening classes on business and financing. He consciously worked toward his goal every day.
Somewhere Alli learned about "core beliefs." One day Alli and I and a few of our co-workers were standing around joking and playing some type of game like pitching pennies. When it was Alli's turn he lost to me. I said, "Alli, you're a loser." Alli challenged me instantly. He turned to face me and said, very loudly, "I am not a loser! Take it back, now!" I hesitated, both surprised at his outburst and unsure of how to handle this confrontation. He repeated, "Now!" I said, "Okay, I'm sorry." But that was not what Alli wanted. He said, "Say I am not a loser!" At this point I realized what was going on. I looked him in the eyes and said, "Alli, you are not a loser." Alli understood how allowing me to get away with this statement, as casual as it was, would have a negative influence on his core beliefs about him and could threaten his chosen destiny.
This story is true. Today, Alli owns a successful business that buys, sells and repairs exotic automobiles. His business is a showplace for our hometown. My point is that you do not have to accept any negative comments from other people. You can challenge people who talk negatively to you and you can challenge your own negative thoughts.
You can direct your environment around you to treat you the way you want to be treated. I have had many People who suffer from a low self-esteem caused by negative core beliefs. These people had decided to do something to improve their life, or to fulfill a dream, but could not succeed because no one had ever given them permission to succeed at anything.
Let me say, you have my permission to succeed at anything you want! You can succeed at almost anything if you want to. I know I limited you by saying "almost anything," but I do not believe I can honestly say it any other way as I say°-beliefs and you shall received.
What you are trying to be needs to be possible. For example, if you have lost an arm in an automobile accident it is not likely you will ever win an Olympic Gold Medal in Gymnastics. You might, however, win a Gold Medal in the Special Olympics. The point is to keep your goals attainable. Let me qualify that statement. If you truly believe you can achieve it, go for it!
Sometimes we want to do things just for the pleasure of doing them. Being the absolute best at something is not always the point. Sometimes we need to do something just to be able to do it; participating in some activity that interests us without regard to whether we are the best or even able to do it well. That is okay! Obviously, if we could store only positive core beliefs in our subconscious we would have no trouble with any aspect of our lives.
The problem is, we all have negative core beliefs and these are limiting our success in everything we do. Core beliefs even influence the choices we make about what we will try to do. If you read this material carefully and do the exercises, I know it will have a positive influence on your life. However, many of you will have to "do combat" with negative beliefs before you will even be willing to try.
Identifying these negative core beliefs is the best thing you can do for yourself. If you get nothing else from this program of personal growth and development, I hope you learn to identify and undermine these life crippling beliefs. I do not believe we can completely eliminate any core belief, but I do believe we can weaken some and reinforce others until the positive beliefs outweigh the negative beliefs. Failure is an opportunity for a new beginning!
Opportunity: you always miss' 100% of the shots you don't take."
Persistence: now that we are exhausted of all possibilities...let's get started."
'There is never a crowd on the extra mile."
Life is great - don't miss it!
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